How to make Men Take Us Seriously?

Ladies listen here!

Men have the tendency to categorize women in one of these four ways:

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Mothers, Virgins, Slut, and Bitches.

None of these categories are suitable for the modern business woman.

But you can create your own image by selecting pieces of each archetype that work for you.

The Wisdom of the Mother

The Integrity of the Virgin

The Sexual Attraction of the Slut

The Independence of the Bitch 

“this leaves men confused and unable to pigeonhole you. What they are forced to do instead is… take you seriously.”


Thank you tumblr for proving a serious point. Why is it that woman must jump  through hoops just so men can take us seriously? There has been so many times I've been categorized these ways by not only men but my fellow women.  Then I got this type of blacklash over my recent post for one of the images I posted. This seriously made me think a little a bit.

What people don't realize that both men and women have insecurities and society  wraps us around the idea that we need to be perfect to find a mate and to succeed in business. However this is not true. Both those scenarios above does happen. But you got to be realistic on the pressure that is put on both sexes. I have guy friends who lift weights everyday for hours because society taught them that they must be super ripped to get the girl they want. They have gone to extremes to achieve their muscles and masculinity. That is what makes them get almost any girl they want. Which is sadly and bizarrely weird in my eyes how girls just throw themselve at these guys who they wouldn't even bat a lash at a few months ago. These same men could not find a job for their life until a while ago.

Same things go for females. It wont be hard for us to find jobs unless your unattractive and chubby. But even then men don't take us seriously. I always found it bizarre how chubby men would be the first to ask me out. I prefer men who are slim or undefined muscular (the ones with some chub and muscle). It mad me insecure actually. I thought it was because I was super fat and only guys who appreciated my curves were fat men (not being offensive, but that's how my vain mind works). But then I got muscular and I realized the same  pattern continued.  Then I realized something, those guys were only coming on to me wasn't because I was chubby it was because I seemed "easy". I was getting attention from my types and I didn't notice it because my head was too wrapped around the fact "Eww chubby guys."

When I worked at Mcdonalds I was classified as the "virgin" and because of that I was "easy prey" and every guy in the world was trying to talk to me at my little drive thru window. Then later on I was classified as the "slut" which was a title I already received in high school. Even so "easy prey". Towards  the end of my little mcdonalds career I became the "bitch". The no one wanted to mess with me at that point. In new career path I've still radiated the title the "bitch".

Now how do I change that? How do we make men take us seriously when it comes to relationships and business?

1. Follow the steps shown above. Take a little bit of each title and use it to your advantage.


2.Appearance DO COUNT! Like @SpokenReason said, no matter what appearances do count. If you dress like a slut, guys will think you are a slut. If you have a tongue ring or a tramp stamp, guys will think you are a slut. If you dress super conservative, guys will think you are a virgin. It's all about dressing just right to give a proper appearance. Guys won't wife a girl they think is a freak. They might hire you just to spice up office life.

3.Don't let drama effect you. Females are prone to drama. How do you fix that? Limit your conversations and interactions with other females above professional level unless you are really friendly with them. Don't be an effing social butterfly, do your work and go the eff home. If you become friendly with anyone, don't talk gossip. Eventually you will make friends without the drama trail of a bitch.

4.Act wise. USE YOUR HEAD BEFORE YOUR MOUTH! 'Nuff said.

Well that's all ladies. Step you shit up and see the money flow. Once you control men, in all honesty, you control the world. These men will be forced to reckon with you and take you as you truly are. A serious woman. 

NAACP Fashion Show

Summer 2013 woot!! As a recent high school graduate it's time to usher in some new changes and hopefully I get smarter. It's now or never to do all the crazy things that I couldn't do before, until I'm back with my face behind books.

One major change is my new job at Charlotte Russe. For the first time in 3 years I'll be working with mostly Caucasians who aren't criminals, mentally ill, and speak fluent English. Gosh I'm so excited lol. 

The only thing is the hours and pay is meh but I actually have grandeur plan to do newly regrained free time. But those plans are about a month away.  

Anyway last month I went to a fashion show and it was my first red carpet event in sort of speak. I wasn't really red carpet ready as everyone else. That day I had just came from the tattoo parlor so I was dealing with a lot of surprised people. The show wasn't really super grandeur event nor wasnt simple. A nice in between showcasing fresh designers and designs from well known upper end stores like Camille la Vie. Couple that with a very diverse audience that included my former school mates and current secondary students as well older audience and fashion seekers. It was quite an interesting show and each scene was presented far from the traditional fashion show. 

A group shot with all my old band buddies, all of us now graduated its crazy how we've changed over the past few years. 

Me on the red carpet lol 😍

And now a few snippets from the show. Unlike a traditional fashion show. They did scenes and acted out a few popular movies and shows which was quite amazing. They did James Bond, Twilight, and A few others.

Well, that's all for today's post. I hope you guys enjoyed.